How Do I Catch Him Cheating On Me?

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If you're reading this article, you probably already know all too well that most wives and girlfriends have a little antennae that can't help but go off when something is "off" or wrong with your husband, your boyfriend, and your marriage.  Sometimes, this antennae goes off when he's having problems at work, is experiencing other stress, or is worrying about something. 

But, most of us can tell the difference between this and something different – something that has to do with his feelings about us and / or the marriage.  Often, we'll ask about this and will be told that we're wrong, mistaken, or paranoid.  Still, the worrisome feeling just won't go away.  You try to come up with the logical explanations. You tell yourself that he's under a great deal of stress, but these things just don't ring true.  This is more than run of the mill distractedness.

So, you vow that you're going to start sniffing around.  You need to know the truth, but you don't know where to start.  Below, I'll tell you some easy ways to catch a cheating husband or boyfriend– ways that will avoid your getting caught and harming the relationship on the rare chance you're wrong.

Start By Verifying The Excuses And Identifying The Lies:  It can really help to take inventory on what's making you suspicious. Is he working late too much? Are there unidentified phone calls? Is he putting too many miles on the car? Is he telling little white lies that seemingly don't mean anything but you think are a symptom of something else? Make a list of these things and then follow up on them, one by one.

If he's working late, arrange to stop by or go by his office on one of his marathon work sessions and check up on him.  (Bring dinner if you want him to see you or bring shopping bags if you don't. You can always feign that you were running errands.) If he isn't there, obviously, this is a huge lie that you need to dig down.

If you see weird texts or cell phone numbers, then there are websites where you can easily find out who the cell belongs to. Once you have the name, you can go on DA Plus or your county property appraiser's office to see who lives at that address. Basically, you can dig down anything that gives you pause.

Often with cheating husbands, you'll find that they start to slip up about seemingly unrelated things.  He'll tell you had pizza for lunch and then you'll find hamburger wrappers in his car.  He'll tell you that his boss is away for the weekend but then you'll see the boss at the grocery store.  What does this have to with anything?  A lot, potentially.  Because catching these little inconsistencies often shows you that he's having a problem keeping track of all of the lies.

Go Exactly Where He Doesn't Want You To Go: Almost always, cheating husbands leave something for you to go on.  They may be totally meticulous and think that they've been careful, but they always slip up eventually.  See if he's been clearing the cache or Internet history on your computer.  See if he's added in a new account to forward on Gmail.  Notice if he's begun to lock the glove compartment of his car.  Take notice if he suddenly doesn't want you near his cell phone or if he's changed the email password.  All of these things will tell you that wherever he doesn't want you to be, that's EXACTLY where the information and proof is hidden.  So, take it to the next step and get the software or tools that will allow you to get your hands on this information.  Most all of this information can be retrieved.

Follow Him – Either In Person Or With Technologically:  The easiest way to find out what your husband is doing is to follow him or have a friend do this.  Many wives can not bring themselves to do this. It seems too invasive and just wrong.  In this case, you can track him via a GPS monitor that you put on the underside of his car. Or, you can get software that will track his cell phone and his computer activity.  Not only that, it will give you a print out of everything, even the deleted stuff.

Alternatively, many people will use Google Earth because you can plug in the address that you got from reverse looking up the cell phone.  Many people have success with this, but sometimes the photos on Google Earth are old and are not in real time.  That's why I really like the technology tools that are both in real time and which you have control over.

I was in this same situation a short time ago. My heart knew that he was cheating, but my head didn't want to acknowledge it. After thinking on it for a long time, I decided that I really wanted to know the truth, no matter what that truth was. I learned how to get concrete information and proof that my husband thought that he had hid and erased. Once I presented this to him, he had no choice but to come clean. You can read a very personal story at

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This article was published on 2010/10/13
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